In the early days of the Internet - this is the 2000s, mind you, not the 1970’s or anything, so maybe the early days of the Social Internet is a better way to say it - there sprungforth from the deeps the concept of the friendzone.
We’re talking about a still very male-dominated Internet back in these days, pre-Tumblr, pre-Facebook, pre-Twitter, when most communicating came on forums, imageboards, and newsgroups.
The friendzone was something guys would complain about. It’s relatively simple… at least it was: when you meet a girl you like and she doesn’t like you romantically, it’s the friendzone.
As the number of women increased, both on the imageboards and forums as well as new social sites, the term was briefly adopted for them as well. Now, the friendzone was when you meet anyone you like and he or she or gender-neutral pronoun doesn’t like you romantically, that was the friendzone.
But then something happened.
Men are fools. We say stupid things, primarily to each other. But on the Internet nothing is private.
Women are fools. They overreact to things. For every woman saying “That’s an unfair generalization,” I would like to point out that this an example of overreacting.
We all know - hopefully - that people have a tendency to say things that they either don’t really mean or that are hyperbolic of how they feel. And there are a lot of guys on the Internet who find themselves in “friendzone situations” more often than not.
This is a legitimate thing to be upset about. The idea that we should marginalize someone’s sadness is ludicrous. Yeah. It sucks. There are a lot of situations where it happens for unfair reasons, like social pressures or geographic remoteness.
Women can be in the friendzone, too. It’s not about being owed something by someone, it’s about having a romantic interest in someone that isn’t reciprocated. Anybody that uses it in another way is wrong: beat them up mercilessly. But if I tell you that I’m friendzoned by the girl down the street, understand that what I’m saying, in our modern day Internet speak, is that my heart is broken and will stay that way for a very long time.
“QI is a brilliant programme isn’t it? That’s one of the few that isn’t for morons- you can’t even risk making jokes about QI! It’s practically one of the last programmes where they imagine the viewer might be able to spell.”—Victoria Coren, Have I Got News For You (Series 43, Episode 9) (via gayathrik1611)
Victoria: Is this to do with Ken Loach? He complained that he couldn’t get the right rating for his film because it had too many swear words in it, but he said that’s just how everyone speaks in Glasgow. Which I’m sure can’t be right.
… but still, girls, it is good to follow this advice… can we not confuse “correcting the problem” with “telling women that people shouldn’t rape them and therefore they won’t" because unfortunately, that’s not really helpful either.